Laura and Emmet

I am happy to report that I finally have something happy to report to ya’ll!

My best friend is engaged! In honor of that, I’d like to dedicate this week’s column to her and her fiancé.

Let’s talk about change … big change. I am what some might call a conservative (not in a political sense) because I do not like change. I know some change can be good, but it’s usually very hard for me to mentally prepare for change.

It is human nature to not want to lose what you currently have, even if it means the possibility of gaining something new. It’s hard for people to let go of their current possessions. Psychology Today explains some of that in more detail.

Humans are creatures of habit, and we like what makes us feel comfortable and secure. When an opportunity comes along that could make us even happier than we currently are, it’s still hard to let go of that which makes us feel comfortable and secure — that which we already know.

That’s why breaking habits are hard, changing your lifestyle through diet and exercise is hard, implementing a new routine is hard … you get the point.

But, as with everything, things change. We grow older and go through different phases of life. My best friend will soon be a life partner to another person, she will change her name, change her residence, and change most of her daily habits. Although a happy change, it is still a change, nonetheless.

With change comes some stress in adjusting to these new habits and new environment. Though her life change might not cause as much stress as some other big life changes — like getting a new job, having a baby, moving, etc. — she will still have to cope with some stresses.

If you’re going through a big change and are feeling some stress, remember to take things one step at a time. Take time to focus on your emotional, spiritual, and physical needs. Talk to someone about how you’re feeling and connect with those you are close to.

Overall, change can be good. Sometimes that light gets lost in the darkness, and that’s okay as long as you remember that there is still a light at the end.

Finally, I’d like to congratulate my best friend and her partner. I’m very much looking forward to witnessing the joy of her wedding day.


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